Are you planning on going on your first date very soon and do you feel apprehensive about the kind of questions you should ask or not ask during your date? If yes, then this article was written specially for you.
The first date with someone might feel stressful, whether it’s due to excitement, apprehension, or even fear. After all, first impressions are key, and this is your chance to see if the person you’re interested in is a good fit for you or “the one. All things considered, deciding what to ask someone the first time you go out may be difficult and can have you second-guessing everything. How deep is too deep a question? Is it considered inappropriate to inquire about their employment and family?
When on a first date, it’s important to strike a balance between keeping things neutral and just enjoying the companionship (and) obtaining the information you need to decide whether or not this individual is a viable relationship option, presuming that’s what you want. Open-ended questions are usually the best kind of questions. Questions that are Open-ended enable the other person to reveal their actual self and it also creates room for interaction. Remember that the goal of these questions is to ease you into a comfortable discussion, not to bombard them with questions. Spend some time learning more about a topic that you and your partner are interested in. After all, you are meant to dialogue, not interrogate.
Having said this, it’s natural for there to be awkward silence in the dialogue. As a result, it’s a good idea to save some of these first date questions for when the silence becomes too awkward. Now let’s go through some of the likely questions you can ask;
List of Questions To Ask On Your First Date
1) How do you spend your free time?
This may appear to be a common question, but inquiring about her hobbies not only provides you with an idea of the types of things she enjoys, but it may also help you determine if you and her share similar interests. Furthermore, understanding her pastime may offer you an idea of what an ideal day looks like for her, if you want to impress her. A question like this can lead to a very long interactive date.
2) Who would you say is the most fascinating person, you have ever met?
It might be a famous person, a classical artist, a brilliant author, a close friend, or a cherished family member. Whoever it is, asking this question to your date is a great approach to start a meaningful conversation.
3) Was your childhood an interesting one?
When it comes to first dates, asking about these topics is quite basic, but the replies might be informative. One thing about this kind of question is that it leads to storytelling about their childhood and so many other questions about where they lived and the schools they attended.
4) What is the most interesting novel or book they have ever read?
If your date is a bookworm or someone that enjoys reading, then this is a very good question. If you are also a reader, then you are both in for a very long and interesting conversation especially if you both have read the same books. Then you can both talk about what you found interesting in the book, about the characters and author.
5) Are you an adventurous person?
Asking the her if she is an adventurous person would help you make up your mind or what next to ask. If, Yes. Then you can go on to ask about the most amazing adventure she has ever participated in. This automatically creates room for storytelling and maybe a date to go on an adventure, if No.
6) Which movie would you say you enjoyed watching the most?
A date night at the movies is never a terrible idea. That is, assuming you choose the correct ones. So, in preparation for a perfect movie date, this is a nice thing to ask. That is if you made it through the first date. Knowing the kind of movie your partner loves to watch or is looking forward to watching would give you an idea of what to talk about and how to plan a movie date.
7) Do you have a pet and are you are pet person?
Owning a pet entails a significant amount of responsibility and dedication. Whether she like cats or dogs, you can know she’s the type of lady who can take care of you. It’s only when you ask this kind of question that you would know if the person would be ok around your pet and if they are allergic to them.
8) What is your most embarrassing moment?
Sharing regrets, awkward moments, or even terrible experiences makes the other person more vulnerable, which is a good method to create closeness in the early stages of a relationship. Furthermore, this will assist establish whether they are comfortable being candid about their most humiliating times.
9) What is your favorite food?
Asking your date what their favorite meal is, is a good way to find out if you share any similarities with them and what meal they prefer to eat. Also, if she is a foodie, she would have a plethora of responses to this question. And if she is not, she would probably be a good cook, which is always a good sign.
10) What outdoor activity do you like to engage in?
Second dates exist to compensate for bad first dates. If you’re thinking about second date ideas, this could be a good question to ask on a first date. Outdoor dates, believe it or not, can be just as enjoyable as indoor dates. If both of you are sporty people, going bowling or cycling as a second date, is not a bad idea.
11) Where do you work?
It’s not out of place to want to know what your date does for a living. Actually, if the question is asked very well, you can learn a thing or two about the kind of person she is, based on where she works or what they do presently.
12) Tell me about your worst date experience, assuming this is not it?
Unless their response is “this date,” this would probably result in comic relief and a shared laugh or two. Just be ready to describe your worst date as well. Sharing a good laugh? That’s a great way to find out if you share the same sense of humor, which also is essential.
13) How many siblings do you have?
This is also a good way to get some information about your date’s family. If she is an only child, she would definitely say so and go on to add why or explain further. On the other hand, if she is not, she would also go on to tell you about her siblings and where they reside.
14) What kind of person were you in Secondary school?
The response you get while asking some of these questions depends on the way you ask them. Like, “How adventurous were you in high school? There is simply no way you would ask your date a question like this and they wouldn’t beam with a smile and reply, even if they were not lively and fun-loving in their secondary school days. At least she would be willing to tell you a story or two, about who they were then.
15) What is your best color?
This might seem a bit childish but trust me, it goes a very long way in greasing your relationship if it gets to that. Knowing each other’s best colors helps a great deal in solving headache of what colour of undies, shirts, cars or item in general to be for each other.
16) What are your Likes and Dislikes?
This is one of the most important questions you ought to ask on your first date. This question helps you in knowing the type of relationship you are about getting into. It helps you to avoid stepping on each other’s toes. Asking his or her likes and dislikes makes you want to avoid getting your date angry and by so doing getting to know her better.
These questions outlined above will provide you with plenty to keep the conversation going, the next time you find yourself on a first date. And who knows? They might be able to assist you in finding the person of your dreams.